Everybody has that one scar that they are afraid to share with the world.
Some people are fierce tigers when they get angry,others are so shy they cant express them selves in public while others have a loud voice that sound rude even when they are really trying to be polite.
I have heard about very wealthy kleptomaniacs who cannot do without taking without permission that thing they can afford in large quantities. I also know of people who cannot control them selves when it comes to sex. These people have been termed Nymphos. You see them as terrible and a disgrace to the human race but what you don’t know is they are as much a victim as you are of whatever weakness and bad habit you are suffering from.
The Idea is you are not the only one slipping in and out of depression because of your battles with those weaknesses neither are you the only one loosing the battle.
Nevertheless,overtime,i have discovered that the first step to winning these battles is accepting and owning these weaknesses, then fighting them from the winning side with the winners mentality.
I’d love to share my story with you, i hope you learn something from it.
Everyone who really knows me, knows that i know what to do with pans and pots in the kitchen.
If you have been here with me long enough, you would know that i know how to make you bite your fingers along with the chicken and that,there should be some recipes named after me.
Regardless, i can’t fry dodo neither can i cook white soup. Every time i see other people make dodo,it comes out of the oil golden brown with no traces of black streaks, but me….
I have repeatedly tried out several forms and methods of making white soup but over and over again, i just make a total fool of my self.
Sometimes, my inability to make these dishes which represent some sort of emblem of our culture as Nigerians and Africans, makes me second guess and doubt my abilities in the item 7 department.
Recently,i made this dish out of my imagination and it was so wonderful that my friend Tolu called it a designer dish. So i just thought to my self, you can’t make presentable dodo but you can make designer what ever else. Why are you stuck on your inability to make dodo?
And so i just let my inability to fry dodo slide. And now, when i introduce my self i just say ; … plus i don’t know how to make dodo after my name and all the necessary details.
I owned my shortcomings in that department.
This is my shortcoming, my shortfall, my weakness, my other side, my fault and i just own it and curb it from determining how i see my self in the second most important place in my house.
I know it means nothing compared to what you consider your fault, weakness, shortfall, shortcoming etc.
But the lesson is simple.
Stop running away from your faults and weaknesses, own them because until you accept that you have these weaknesses and own them,you can never win the battles against your weaknesses.
These are your shortcomings, weaknesses ,failures, shortfalls or whatever you choose to call them,
And win them.
Accepting and owning these faults and weaknesses is the beginning of your victory.
I’m just saying.